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Take the Year, Take the Summer, Touch the Gate

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Written by Dr. James C. Rodríguez, MSW, President and Chief Executive Officer of Fathers & Families Coalition of America, author of The Purpose Within: Rise Out of the Ashes Like the Phoenix, and host of Opportunity Awaits — Lead The Way.

Featuring podcast conversation guest Dr. Chacko Abraham, educator, fatherhood advocate, and longtime friend joining from Almaty, Kazakhstan.

Through this blog series, I will share reflections, insights, stories, and lessons from guests on Opportunity Awaits — Lead The Way, along with personal reflections from my book and my journey. My hope is that you stay connected to the blogs, listen to the podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, join our growing community, and walk with us as we explore purpose, resilience, leadership, healing, family, and the opportunities waiting just beyond adversity.

Luna Sat Down and Quit

Luna sat down and quit. Not tomorrow. Not eventually. Right there. Two miles into the Arizona desert, my beautiful German Shepherd looked at me as if to say, "I'm done."

Funny thing is, many of us do the same. Not because we are weak. Not because we are failures. Not because purpose has left us. But because life has a way of making our legs feel heavy. Leadership feels heavy. Parenthood feels heavy. Loss feels heavy. Responsibility feels heavy. Sometimes grief feels heavy. Sometimes, becoming who we are called to become feels heavy.

And maybe that is where this story really begins. Not with a podcast. Not with a microphone. Not even with a book. With a hill.

I am excited to bring our first guest, Dr. Chacko Abraham, into this space. As you read this blog, my hope is simple: somewhere in these words, somewhere in these moments, somewhere in these reflections, you see a little of yourself. I hope you visit the podcast page, press play, and sit with us for a while. Not because two men have all the answers, but because two men have been blessed by life, stretched by life, humbled by life, and shaped by life.

Both of us have a son and two daughters. Both of us have walked through profound experiences. Both of us have become educators in our own way. Yet this chapter, this conversation, and now this blog all began because I asked Dr. Chacko Abraham to do me a favor that carried much more meaning than I realized at the time.

I asked him to write the foreword to a book that finally came together on April 16, The Purpose Within: Rise Out of the Ashes Like the Phoenix. On the surface, it is a memoir. But memoirs are really collections of moments. Stories. Encounters. Hills. Seasons. People. Pain. Laughter. Grace. Every chapter is an invitation. Every story becomes a lantern held up in hopes that someone else can see the road a little more clearly.

This book is a call to mothers and fathers, practitioners and leaders, social workers and educators, children, young adults, veterans, caregivers, and people quietly trying to find their way through the changing seasons of life.

About the Book

The Purpose Within: Rise Out of the Ashes Like the Phoenix is a powerful memoir and inspirational call to action for anyone who has had to fight through pain, loss, adversity, trauma, or reinvention. Drawing from military service, fatherhood, faith, leadership, cultural identity, and decades of healing-centered work, Dr. James C. Rodríguez, MSW, shares what it means to rise without losing your soul.

Blending memoir, leadership insight, trauma-informed reflection, and culturally grounded wisdom, this book explores resilience, mental health, family healing, emotional truth, purpose-driven living, and the legacy we build through how we live, love, and lead. With honesty, strength, and compassion, Dr. Rodríguez invites readers into a journey shaped by hardship, service, responsibility, and the enduring belief that healing is not weakness, but courage in motion.

The Purpose Within is a book for fathers, parents, veterans, leaders, helping professionals, and anyone searching for meaning in the middle of life's hardest moments. It speaks to those carrying invisible wounds, those striving to break generational cycles, and those longing to live with greater clarity, wholeness, and intention.

Available in Kindle, paperback, and hardcover formats. Readers may purchase the book through Amazon or request it through their local Barnes & Noble.

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The Season Before the Hill

One of the most profound truths about this chapter and this podcast is that we recorded it the day before I learned I would speak at the home-going celebration of my mentor, Dr. Gene C. Blue. He had been a cheerleader for me when I was still entering my own summer season. That matters because some people do not merely encourage us; they stand in the distance of our lives and help us believe that our climb still has meaning.

In this book, I describe life through seasons. Spring begins before birth and carries us through our twenties. Summer arrives around thirty and carries us through decades of striving, building, loving, learning, failing, healing, and becoming. Harvest comes later, when the fruit of our life begins nourishing others. And after harvest comes winter, when wisdom asks us to listen more than prove.

Seasons matter. Not because age defines us, but because seasons remind us that movement never stops. We are always becoming. We are always being cultivated. We are always somewhere between seed, soil, branch, fruit, shadow, and shelter.

When Dr. Abraham wrote the foreword, he kept returning to one chapter: Take the Year, Take the Summer. Right in the middle of the book. That chapter was written one month before my sixtieth birthday. Some might say, "James, if you were entering your harvest season, why call it summer?" Maybe I was being goofy. Maybe I was denying sixty. But that was not it. I was training. Preparing. Getting ready for a grueling hike, I promised myself I would take. And I did.

I am grateful Victoria stood beside me because she cheered me on the same way I would later cheer someone else on. In the same way, Dr. Abraham cheerleaded me by writing the foreword. In the same way, mentors, brothers, sisters, colleagues, family, and unexpected strangers sometimes become part of our web of influence before we even understand why they were placed in our path.

"Sometimes the difference between almost and fulfillment is one more step, one more breath, one more moment of courage."

The Hill, the Gate, and the Moment We Almost Quit

What drew Dr. Abraham into this chapter were the metaphors: the acorn that may take decades before becoming an oak; the Phoenix rising from ashes because embers were once fire; the hill; the orchard; the season. These were not decorative images. They were movements of life. The Phoenix teaches resilience. The hill teaches effort. The orchard teaches stewardship. The acorn teaches patience. Remove one, and the movement loses something sacred.

And then there was Luna.

In January, I took Luna hiking at Deems Hill Preservation Park in northern Phoenix. Arizona can feel warm in January. Eighty degrees can sneak up on you. Warm skies. Cool evenings. Desert brilliance. Luna was nearing her fourth birthday. Athletic. Beautiful. Strong. And after two miles, she sat down and quit.

That is what happens sometimes. Sometimes we think we are ready. Then life says otherwise. Sometimes we sit and quit. Sometimes we need a timeout. Sometimes the body, the spirit, or the moment says, "Pause." And sometimes that pause creates room for something else to happen.

As I stood there, I saw two cyclists far below. One was outpacing the other. The younger one was struggling. I yelled, "You're close! Touch the gate! Take it! Don't quit!" He pushed harder. When he finally reached the top, breathing hard and laughing, I realized he was a young man. "You're less than ten feet away. Touch the gate!" And he did.

Then I saw another rider climbing. Gray in his beard. Exhausted. "Is that your dad?" I asked. "Yes." "What's his name?" "Brad." I handed Luna over and said, "Take care of her for a moment." Luna wanted a timeout anyway. Then I met Brad at the hardest part of the incline.

There is a scene in Gladiator in which a man is asked to remove his mask and speak his name. I thought about that because so many of us walk around masked. We carry strength on the outside while wrestling privately with the climb. We tell people we are fine while our legs are shaking. We lead rooms while wondering who will help us carry the weight when the applause is over.

So, for reasons I still laugh about today, I renamed him Bradicus Santicus. Like Gladiator. Like life. Like all of us wearing masks and forgetting who we are. We laughed in pain. We climbed. And somewhere in the middle of that hill, I realized something: sometimes people meet us at the hardest point and say, "Come on. Let's go."

That changes everything.

When Brad reached the top, he was only a few rotations of the pedal away from the gate. But those final rotations can feel like the hardest part of life. That is the place where many people stop. Not because they cannot finish, but because they have started believing that almost is enough. Almost healed. Almost free. Almost courageous. Almost present. Almost faithful. Almost whole.

But the invitation was not almost.

The invitation was to touch the gate.

Listen to Opportunity Awaits — Lead The Way

If you are navigating leadership, healing, parenthood, purpose, reinvention, grief, or a new season of becoming, this conversation was created with you in mind.

Episode Two: Take the Year — Take the Season

In Episode Two of Opportunity Awaits — Lead The Way, host Dr. James C. Rodríguez, MSW, sits down with educator, fatherhood advocate, and longtime friend Dr. Chacko Abraham for a deeply reflective and emotionally powerful conversation titled Take The Year — Take The Season.

More than a discussion about a book chapter, this episode becomes a journey through purpose, healing, fatherhood, leadership, resilience, and the seasons of life that shape who we become. Drawing from the chapter Take the Year — Take the Summer from The Purpose Within: Rise Out of the Ashes Like the Phoenix, James and Chacko explore the meaning behind the Phoenix, the hill, the orchard, and the acorn — revealing how adversity, waiting, growth, and stewardship all work together to form legacy.

Through honest storytelling and heartfelt reflection, listeners are invited into conversations about climbing life's hills, touching the gate instead of stopping short, learning the difference between being a father and being a dad, and discovering that purpose is not lost during painful seasons — it is often refined there.

From reflections on parenthood and identity to stories of mountains climbed despite injury, moments of grief transformed into gratitude, and the power of encouragement across generations, this episode reminds listeners that no season is wasted when growth still lives within it.

Whether you are a parent, educator, leader, graduate, caregiver, practitioner, veteran, or simply someone trying to figure out what comes next, this conversation offers hope, perspective, and a reminder that movement with meaning is purpose.

The Web of Influence

What happened that day on a mountain trail in Arizona was never really about a hill. It was about interconnectedness. One young man. One father. One German Shepherd who unexpectedly needed a timeout. One stranger. One conversation. One gate. And suddenly, the Arizona desert became full of energy.

That is what happens when human beings encourage one another. Energy becomes contagious. Hope becomes transferable. Purpose becomes visible. Movement becomes possible. We shift from "it is too hard" to "maybe I can." We shift from isolation into connection. We shift from almost into action.

Who helped you touch the gate — and who are you helping climb?

A Reflection on Gratitude, Blessings, and Becoming

One of the final invitations from the episode still resonates most strongly: when doubt appears, remember your blessings. When blame begins to consume you, return to gratitude. Shifting from doubt and blame to gratitude and blessings can transform how we carry adversity, heal, build relationships, and lead.

As I reflected later on Dr. Gene C. Blue and the blessing of speaking at his home-going celebration, I found myself thinking about people like him. People who quietly become cheerleaders in our lives. People who somehow appear during our summer seasons and help carry us toward harvest. People who see something in us before we fully see it in ourselves.

I wondered how many hills Dr. Gene C. Blue climbed. I wondered how many mountains he carried. I wondered who walked beside him when life became grueling. Leadership often looks beautiful from far away, but every leader eventually unfolds somewhere. Every leader eventually reaches a moment when they need someone to whisper, "Keep going."

Some of you reading this may not have that person right now. Some of you may not have a Luna beside you. Some of you may feel like you are climbing alone. And some of you may have resources, relationships, gifts, wisdom, experience, and encouragement overflowing in your life.

Then maybe this is your invitation: become someone else's cheerleader. Become part of someone else's web of influence. Become the voice that sees a person struggling and says, "You are closer than you think."

A Moment for You

Before you leave this page, pause for a moment. Not because the story is over, but because your story is still unfolding.

What hill are you climbing right now? Where have you almost stopped? Who has been cheering for you from a distance? Who met you at the hardest part and walked beside you? And who might be waiting for your voice, your encouragement, your presence, your reminder that they are not done yet?

The work of purpose is not always loud. Sometimes it is a sentence. Sometimes it is a phone call. Sometimes it is a hand on the shoulder. Sometimes it is a father and son on a hill. Sometimes it is a mentor like Dr. Gene C. Blue. Sometimes it is a brother like Dr. Chacko Abraham. Sometimes it is a dog named Luna who sits down and forces you to notice something you might have otherwise missed.

That is flow. Not rushing and not forcing. Not pretending. Flow is when the moment, the memory, the relationship, the lesson, and the calling begin moving together. Flow is when the hill teaches the heart. Flow is when purpose stops being an idea and becomes motion. Flow is when one life touches another, and both keep moving.

Continue the Journey

Opportunity Awaits — Lead The Way is not just a podcast. It is a place where people remember who they are. A place where stories matter. A place where leadership becomes human. A place where fathers, mothers, educators, practitioners, veterans, leaders, young adults, and families can gather and remember that difficult seasons do not cancel purpose.

If this conversation moved you, continue the journey. Listen to the podcast. Subscribe. Share it with someone who may be standing at the bottom of their own hill. Then consider reading The Purpose Within: Rise Out of the Ashes Like the Phoenix and walking deeper into the stories, reflections, and lessons that helped give birth to this movement.

Take the hill. Take the day. Take the season. Take the year. Touch the gate.

And if you happen to see someone climbing behind you... cheer a little louder.